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In one week and two days many Americans will celebrate Thanksgiving.

For some this is a joyous event, an opportunity to reunite with family and friends. But for others, those that might find themselves alone this Thanksgiving, this day may not bring such thoughts of joyous anticipation.

But if you are alone this Thanksgiving, you don’t have to feel lonely. Spending Thanksgiving alone is the perfect opportunity to create your own adventure! 

Alone this Thanksgiving?
Fitagain Cafe Krakow by Ostap Senyuk on Unsplash

 

I hope that I don’t sound nauseatingly optimistic to you. That is not my intention.

Discovering alternative ways to approach disappointments and life shifts just comes naturally for me.

There have been times in my life when I felt like an outcast because I had no one to celebrate holidays with me. And there have been other times when I was surrounded by friends and family for the holidays, but I felt alone nonetheless.

When I was in my mid-twenties I lived out of state and found myself alone on Thanksgiving. I had friends but those relationships were new, so I didn’t feel comfortable spending the holiday with them and their families.

At first I sulked a bit, but then I made a decision. I decided that I would make the most out of the day even if I had to be alone.

What I discovered is that I actually like my own company, regardless of whether or not anyone else does or doesn’t.

 

Give Thanks
Signs of Gratitude by Simon Maage on Unsplash

Solo Adventures Can Lead to Healthy Relationships

It’s a good thing, really, to be able to enjoy your own company.

Why? I think it’s a good thing because you learn to be content either way. And when you are content either way, you end up contributing to healthier relationships because you aren’t looking to other people to make you happy.

When I was surrounded by others during holidays I thought that those experiences validated my existence in some way. It made me feel like a more worthwhile person.

But when we give others that much power, the opposite situation can have a very negative impact.

If we feel validated when surrounded by people, then we will probably feel invalidated, insignificant, unworthy, [fill in the blank], when we aren’t surrounded by people.

And so, on the days leading up to Thanksgiving Day years ago, I made a decision that has since changed my perspective about self-worth.

I decided to make the best of my situation. Although I did not have a big family dinner to attend, I did have enough money to take in a matinee, and I could treat myself to lunch at my favorite restaurant afterwards.

 

And so I did.

I chose to create my own adventure. Since I lived in a warmer client, I also spent some time outdoors after seeing the movie and having lunch.

 

(Woman Tossing Leaves) by Paul Green on Unsplash

Alone this Thanksgiving = An Opportunity

If you find yourself alone this Thanksgiving, might I suggest that you have been presented with an opportunity?

How will you handle it? Will you take assessment of what you are lacking? Or, will you acknowledge what you do have and make the most of it?

I considered creating a list of suggestions for you, but then I thought that that goes against the main theme of this website. If you are to create your own adventure, then you don’t really need any suggestions from me.

Check in with your heart. What have you wanted to do but haven’t had the time? (Be sure to check hours of operation if it’s a public place.)

But I invite you to enjoy the day. Make it your own.

Tradition is nice, don’t get me wrong. And yet not everyone’s life fits perfectly into traditional systems.

 

So create your own system. It does not have to be permanent. Do what you feel inspired to do this year and let next year take care of itself.

 

I would like to hear about your decision! Feel free to share it below or on the Facebook page.

 

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